Thursday, August 26, 2010

joie de vivre!

The night whispered moody and blue… so much my joie de vivre!
I cannot possibly remember when this love affair began, too long ago to recollect. Swept me off my feet; stole the breath right from my chest; and breathed new rhythm in to my heart. In its sultry embrace I dance and sway. This joie de vivre…this yin, my yang… this answer to questions I’ve not asked…this exquisite match.  In a word, my friends, The Blues!

Without warning I was swept away to the great city of N’Orleans and that love affair with the Blues became a real living thing. For it was there, I swear, that we came together, face-to-face.  I stood in the Big Easy and even in daylight, I felt the night.

The sounds of horns and piano keys circled my soul. I bought a harmonica at The House of Blues because I loved the feel of it, and the song it sings just sends me! I sat spellbound in a place around the corner while a trio of players -piano, bass and singer- made music. There was a single, soft spotlight aimed at the modest stage which cut individual shadows against the backdrop… and I remember choosing shadow over man that night, not able to look away from the image cast by that bass silhouette.

Later, walking leisurely down the cobbled streets a scrappy balladeer began a song to me, “Ain’t she sweet…” with a voice so true and pure, my heart took flight. Beside him at the curb, a cardboard box, tattered and worn; dollars and cents scattered inside. I stood still, enchanted, while he sang to me; and in return I poured all my love into him; then, dropped the contents of my wallet into his box. I was just beginning to fly. My smile was brighter than that well lit street.

One open door, led to another, and to the next; and I saw ancient men tickling the ivory’s with such sweet care, singing with fine mellow voices, their smiles as wide as my out-stretched arms; horns that rang out with hope and pain, sorrow and joy. Everywhere I found music I found another piece of me. Not that I was missing pieces … but now I felt far more whole.

Nights blended into days and back into nights and music was my only passion, my purpose. In everything that wasn’t music, I still found notes and melodies tucked inside …vibrant color, reds and blues; dark skinned people moving rhythmically along, friends becoming friends. I found new friends every day with each step. Southern hospitality is as real as you and me. It’s a living breathing thing; gracious, warm, and extended to everyone.

I tore myself away from this all-consuming thing, hopped an airboat and propelled along the waterways, then cut left to burrow deep into the mossy overhangs and come alongside crocks, whilst dragon flies flit and flew, and lingered all about us. They were magic! Gossamer wings, literally! They were so abundant I wondered what they thought of us. Like they all came out to look. Back into the wide canal of the Bayou I was awed by white birds rising off the water; graceful, elegant, a ballet. Even here the air seemed to vibrate in harmony. Its own special song.

I recall each moment vividly…Gumbo, spicy and rich; oysters on the half shell at Desire’s; The Strapping Young Lads; the lady singer at d.b.a. who may have been Janis Joplin –I mean seriously. Mansions and Graveyards, trolleys, and miles of peaceful sugar cane; and there was that thing with the guy in the place…but I digress :)

Of all the elements of that rare and beautiful visit- it was the music for me. The Blues. The wailing of the sax, the excited fiddles, the sweet bliss of the harmonica…the soulful songs…and leaving town was a personal tug-of-war.  With heavy heart, I did leave, with my memories, and music wraped around me!

Standing in the driveway saying good-bye to all of this I was thinking about the actual leaving and driving away…and those feelings associated with ‘going-on-home-alone’ after the immensely memorable time spent in the south…and I knew it would be dreadful. I was feeling it already. So I made the ride about music. Stocked up on cd’s and stacked them on the seat next to me like a fellow traveler; Dr. John, Charlie Miller, Randy Newman, Fats, and a few others. Bob Seger was there, because the man just “knows.”

In town, at a stop light, I lowered the top of the Chrysler, sat back and with purpose, prepared for the next hours of scenery and sun that would take me away from the memory of New Orleans and bring me home to my girls.  I reached for the first cd, and tucked Fats Domino into the player.

Fats and I sang to each other for two full plays of his upbeat jazzy-blues and rock tunes. And I loved him all over again. ‘I’m Walkin’ to New Orleans’ getting some well-deserved preferential attention. And my mind shot through memories like a slide show of pure delight.  I saw people with broad smiling faces… Deborah and Malcolm; the-two-Chris’ and Tasha. I saw keyboards and horns; rhythmic lights and music pounding out from open windows. My mind was flashing, my heart tightening. I remembered the street-serenade …and an old man by the Miss’ blowing his horn just for me, thrilling me with his flair, as I guessed at the elements of his life.

Through the pass, Randy Newman and I got serious and heavy. His wicked sense of rhyme twisting through my mind. His gravity and pointed messages wound me through curves and over hills. I stayed with him because I wanted to, a little moody setting in.

Further on, I was carried in to Williams on ‘Eagles’ wings and re-lived the harmonies of those talented boys, rocking me back to a time when I knew them intimately by verse. I crossed the Sacramento River on some suspended green bridge and noticed people in the river below; and a foursome of canoes, rowing-in-time, one behind the other in faultless symmetry…while Joe Walsh’s “Pretty Maids all in a Row” filled the air. I smiled. It was perfect.

I passed acres of dried sun-flowers standing rather proudly in the sun, and at the rice fields of Butte County, I was surrounded by multitudes of dragon flies which filled the air above me, criss-crossing overhead like maniacs, as light as the air itself. I remembered the dragon flies of the Bayou, light, colorful and radiant….and the enormous beauty of the waterways was laid out before my eyes.

I thanked New Orleans for revealing herself to me through beauty and music. I know that music not only answers our needs, and fills us up, and can just “put us in that certain place;” but it also speaks for us. And I nodded thanks to her for our ‘conversations’ so adeptly, tenderly, movingly exchanged… our affair while still in full swing, was definitely an “event to remember.”

Seeing my girls washed away the need to be immersed in anything but home. One look into their faces and I was filled to the brim with love, joy and amazement in them; when they looked at me I wondered if they could see traces of Evangeline.

Sunday, August 22, 2010

Sharing Superstitions

I remember when the air was cool and the breezes fresh; back when scorching heat had not yet tiptoed into the desert -blistering all in its path… I took to the hills for a hike. I wanted to let my mind unwind, gratitude unfold, and peace-n-quiet seep inside of me.

I stood, facing the Superstition Mountains alone. I came to breathe-deep of this place that I love. Those of you who know the Superstitions, also know they’re one of my ‘happy places’ for I have criss-crossed its slopes dozens of times. There were so few people on the mountain that day that I never really encountered anyone; and thus, I was allowed the revelry of my own thoughts.

As I hiked along I was surprised to hear the soft sounds of moving water, and I thought, ‘hmm, I don’t recall water running thru here…,’ but it had been awhile since I’d put foot to these paths… and things do change… so I stopped, quieted my breaths and listened; I wanted to find its origin. I couldn’t hear it now. So I continued on and up. Again I heard the sound of water, so I fully stopped, closed my eyes to filter out my own assumptions of what-was-and-wasn’t-there, and I listened again.

Everything came alive in the undisturbed quiet. Now I heard buzzing insects, birds calling, and the rustle of desert shrubs…  I stood silently and remembered how much I love the smell of a dirt trail, of sage, and flowering cactus and such…but nope, there were no sounds of water. I thought, ‘good grief, I’m losin’ it!’ so again, I continued up-slope. The water sound returned. ‘Ahh!’ I said aloud, and softly chuckled to my surroundings; I realized it was my water bottle, gently slapping against my rather dainty rear-end.
[Yes, I am that woman.]

The vistas were grand and crystal-clear that day. I saw all the way to Camelback Mountain, and Phoenix cut its unique skyline into the heavens. Straight ahead, north and east, lay smaller mountains folding into one another and covered with velvety scrub; and the sky above held chunky white clouds resting against cobalt blue.
The Superstition Mountain herself loomed before me like some prehistoric Ship, sailing across bone-dry wilderness. God, I love this place.

I hiked higher and longer than I had planned, and each step brought delight and joy. Wildflowers peeked out from around stones and cactus bloom'd.  Breathing hard, I rested the afore-mentioned ‘dainty’ on an overlook bench, and with some calming breaths I eased into my new surroundings and became immersed in them. Far surpassing a vase with a dozen roses... if you really want to turn me on, bring me a bouquet of desert.

Resting there, my thoughts spun out before me in interesting ways; I saw things in my head; and something surprising happened: images of friends and family came before me and mingled together.  You were there in my mind... and also right in front of me, lounging on rocks, looking into the distance, hands angled over brows, shielding the sun…talking, smiling and laughing along the trail… I connected with each of you and loved the feeling and the ‘sense’ of having everyone I care about hanging-out together in this most extraordinary place.
In time, I made my way back down, but not without imparting to you, all the joy and excitement; confidence and contentment; love and tenderness, your lives can hold.

You know, driving into work each morning I see the Superstitions hunkered in the dusky early light of morn', and more often now, the sun emerging from behind them. Odd as it may seem, there is always that moment where I give it a nod of recognition and admiration.  and because the sun’s right there, I will take those very moments to reverently recite the Sun Salutation.

Namaste’ my friends.

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Nope, it wasn't rain

I woke early, as I always do, but there was no glow illuminating my surroundings. Each night I tilt the blinds open because in the morning I love the way the sun slashes thru them setting off dancing shards of wonderment all thru my sparkly things and around my room. Necklaces hanging on the wall-mount, crystals overhead, the stained-glass lamp on the dresser. After a moment of disappointment [no dancing colors today for you, my friend],  my next thought was, “Joy of joys! We must be getting rain!” You live on the desert floor in the summertime for more than a few weeks and you think about hocking the family jewels for a first-rate downpour. So I got up and headed to the window expecting a gray day and rain.

What-ho? Not a rain cloud in sight. Instead, every inch of sky was covered with the most brilliant, imaginatively placed collection of white clouds I have ever seen over-head. They were slightly bunched in long parallel lines, snuggled up close together, and they went on, it seemed, forever. I heard my own intake of breath. Tugging on my scrubs, and scrubbing sleep off my face, I grabbed Marley’s leash, coaxed her out of her bed, and took to the door. At a scosh before six we were standing out on our second floor porch and I could see in every direction, without end, the same pattern above me. It was inspiring. I stood there for several long moments letting it rest above me.
The Tao te Ching says, ‘Observe the wonders as they occur around you, don’t claim them. Feel the artistry moving thru…and be silent.’ And so I was: silent.
‘n in that silence, I knew The Tao got it right.

I enjoy sunrise from my bed most of the time, except when camping; where the wilderness, in all its crisp, fragrant morning newness, just takes me by the hand and we walk away together. I’m different in nature, and this morning I felt all those feelings of being far away from everything; and in that quiet silence I was part of the sky.

Marley of course, had had just about enough of me; tugging her leash, she was more than ready to get moving. We made our way down the stairs, but not without throwing a backward glance over her shoulder that seemed to say, 'geesh! what’s with you?'
[wednesday morning, august eleven, i just might never forget it.]

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

First Blog thoughts

I had a chat with a 'new friend' recently. I was drawn to her actually.
She is a woman of color and shorter than I, dressed in brilliant clothes of a wonderful and different cut. There were layers. Style. She’s full-figured and warm and has a rich, musical laugh...but it was her eyes that I saw first, amber; deep; and unspeakably accepting. I couldn’t stop looking at her; so I walked on over. And just like that we began talking.
I met her again last Friday at school. Once more, we kind of spent the evening together although we had different interests in classes, so we attended our sessions separately. While waiting, our discussion grew deeper, wider, until it nestled in our souls. It got so 'real' ... [You ever have that happen? You just go deep and truthful with a person who’s somewhat of a stranger?  I mean... lots of trust! It’s the partial-anonymity of it, I suppose.]

The topic was personal, and I said, "You know, I don't think I was ever actually loved by a man in the way that I needed to be... " I said, "Of course I have had lots of love in my life...family, children, friends.... but that connection with a man, a husband, where you know that they "get you" and you, them; ...and there's a mutual amazement in the other person, of who they are, and who you are with them..." "Nope,” said I, “I have-not had that."

And so the conversation went. Not surprisingly, she disclosed the same lack of connection; there is a ‘settling’ that happens and disappointment. Neither of us was particularly sad at the moment, just two women sharing a sense of not-having-had... and a sense of what-should-have-been-had.

I thought later about the subtle detachments that are shared between people, any people; and that we owe it to each other to, well, sort of stop-look-and-listen to each other; and hear what it is we each want out of life, and then...  add to it if we can. 
That's relationship...to me.

Interestingly, I was listening to a song on a cd as I drove to work...Stevie Ray Vaughn again (I'm in a circling circle with his music) and whatever the words were, I found myself thinking that I missed Mary so damn much; and what a perfect match we were for each other. Utterly fantastic friends. Inseparable. Like two pieces of the same amazing something… Together, we became someone else. God, I’d love to be walking together with her again. Right then and there, her presence was so real to me, I began to soar.

I'm aware that I've often found a deeper camaraderie with women; a truer connection.
A wise man once said to me: "…there’s nothing wrong with your car, Wildflower, you've just been with the wrong men..." He was answering 'a great analogy' I had just made about "the me, that is me” being a snazzy car that my husband really wanted to have, but once he had it…he simply never engaged it...he never even turned the key; and one-by-one, we all got out.
So I’m all about believing my friend, haha, the wise, insightful man.

Okay, I've heard of blogging. a Blog. The internet.
I've read maybe 3 blogs in all, cruised thru a few more. And found I was not as enthusiastic with the concept, as-oh-so-many-others are. I thought maybe it’s just my fear pushing it away. Every one of my children has said at some point, "Mom, you should write a blog." In my mind I wanted to see it as a springboard for writing. But I also thought my right hand, a blank sheet of paper, and a quilled ink pot (read: word document on microsoft here) could be my springboard... but I had not yet sprung. And there are so many crazy corners of why that board remained unsprung. So I did not blog ...

The blogs I managed to tour seemed to be self-promoting scrapbooks, if you will, of pictures from anywhere… plus fashion; cooking, baking; and a lot of rambling. Some of it reflective and interesting. (and I thought well hell, I can ramble with the best of them.) But I considered, who in the world wants to hear every stray thought I have. Especially a stranger. Then I remembered my new friend and how (in a very short period of time) we went deep.

And so the gentle urging continued from a blue-eyed daughter…I gently declined. When she gently pushed, I would gently chuckle.
Then something changed.

I don't know if it was the book by Elif Shafak, The 40 Rules of Love, or any of the, what, 200 books, I’d read in the past few months, while I nourished my isolation from the springboard.  But without knowing, really, when… I was bitten by the smallest diminutive bug. The bug to write. I began to 'think' about writing. I took note, because there was a shift inside.

So here I am writing. I have a blog page.
I decided to be: Wildflower.
My own personal nod to:
my extreme love of nature
to beauty
to freedom
to the wind's caress
to standing in the sunshine
to growing, exquisitely
and in a heart-quickening sort of way,
to my good friend Tom Petty.

Now, I find I've begun typing a blog in my mind. Isn't that funny?  Just driving thru morning traffic, adding ideas and throwing out others :)
I thought, 'I've never composed typed words in my mind before.' I've had countless internal dialogues, but this was different.
I was a wild flower, laughing un-selfconsciously.

...i fell asleep thinking how patient my daughter was with me, setting all this up.
She knows me so well... bringing me along, waiting on my decisions, watching me ebb and flow. Laughing to engage me. Not minding my body language, even as I was camped-out in it.  Arms crossed, knees to my chest. Furrowed brow. And in the end -great scott almighty, we had a page! A place to begin. She brought my dragging feet to a starting line.
Inspiration to begin.
To begin what? well...a place to begin to write, to let things out, and let other things in. To unwind, and maybe, just maybe, on a few fine occasions, to lift and fly.

I’ve always wanted to work the craft, wonderful words, see if I have anything to say - and so what if I don't- it means something to me.
Love Love, Wildflower